By Di Stalter

One of the most important lessons we need to teach our children is: You alone are responsible for your thoughts.

You choose what to think

Teach your children that they control how they feel about problems. They can choose to worry about them, complain about them or blame someone else for them. But, nothing will be resolved until they take responsibility for them.

Once they understand that they can choose not to worry, complain or blame, they can take the nest step and deal with the situation.

So, if you don't already, start teaching your children how to be responsible for their own thoughts.

When life hands you a difficult situation, don't complain about it. See the challenge and accept it. Find a solution.

Encourage them to look for any positive in the problem and work on it.

    * Assure them that when they find the solution, they will become stronger and things will get easier
    * Teach them to find a mantra for when problems pop up unexpectedly. This will teach them to immediately start looking for a solution instead of focusing blame or complaining. The mantra could be: "this is my responsibility", or "I choose how to fix this", or even "I own this".

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